APPRECIATION

Appreciation - The ''STROKE'' GUY

2011-10-09T20:43:00.000-07:00

SHOW APPRECIATION!

2011-05-08T16:52:00.000-07:00

VOLTAIRE SPEAKS ON APPRECIATION!

2010-11-22T20:15:00.000-08:00

APPRECIATION - The POEM

2007-11-22T21:29:00.000-08:00

APPRECIATION -
(a process of love)

When We Appreciate
We Understand, We Accept
We Do A Favor To Those
We Appreciate
And Vice-Versa
They Grow and We Grow

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Appreciation is A
Win-Win
Situation
In GIVING and RECEIVING
There is NO ONE who
DOES NOT COME OUT ON TOP

APPRECIATE/DEPRECIATE

2007-01-26T13:44:00.000-08:00

Appreciation: The Therapeutic Process

2006-03-19T15:31:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...
APPRECIATION:: THE THERAPEUTIC PROCESS

---There is a Dictionary Definition of Appreciation that states: to ''Understand'' and to ''Accept.'' Let us look into this a little more closely.
---When something is Depreciated, it is ''lessened in value.'' When something is Appreciated, its ''value grows.'' I know of no one who doesn't enjoy being Appreciated, because growth is fun, eventually

---What Happens When Someone Is APPRECIATED?---
---When one is Appreciated, one's value is enhanced through the automatic process of Appreciation. To me, this is astounding. Though we seem not to practice this, we are beings of Unlimited Potentials and Possibilities. If one Understands and Accepts this, this also works on oneself. We are Beings of LOVE and LIGHT. We find ourselves ''Appreciating'' the more we Understand and Accept LIFE as it is and stop trying to be something we're NOT.
---When we feel Understood and Accepted, we ''Appreciate in value,'' we grow. When someone ''gets'' where we are coming from and Accepts that (without trying to change us), we grow. This is a Communication of Love. (Hint: when we Accept something, it is always Accepting it as it is and never as we project it should be, as that simply is not Acceptance.)

---Isn't This The Process Of LOVE?---
---The more fully Understood and the more Accepted we are, then the more fully Appreciated we are and, hence, the greater the growth in life. We become more aware and alive through this ''Loving Process.'' We are mentally more clear, more fully present to ''where we are, when we're there,'' that is to say, living in the present moment.
---Being Understood and Accepted frees us from our past to live in the present. Being ''present'' to the ''present'' moment, is truly where our happiness lies. Many of us are scattered and still carry much of our ''past'' hang-ups and outlooks with us as we ''try'' to live in the present. We somehow see the present, the ''new'', with ''old'' eyes. LOVE is a full response to the present. Be Well.

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(One Of My First Attempts At VIDEO-Be Kind)

APPRECIATION, ETC - Bobby Darling, etc.

TO BE WHERE YOU ARE, WHEN YOU'RE THERE

2006-03-08T16:48:00.000-08:00

To Be Where You Are, When You're There.
No GUILT From The PAST
No WORRY For The FUTURE
To Be Where You Are, When You're There

APPRECIATION - The GLUE of RELATIONSHIP

2006-02-08T18:48:00.000-08:00

Appreciation: The Glue of Relationship

2006-02-08T16:51:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...
APPRECIATION: We All Respond To It

---We ALL know that Appreciation means to Understand and to Accept. This is the Process that enhances another. As one is enhanced, ALL his Relationships are improved, also. So, Understanding and Accepting one person has an accumulative affect on ALL that that person does. We can see how essential this is, as it affects everybody involved in such a positive way.
---If you wish to make ANY Relationship better, you have to increase the Understanding and Acceptance. As was stated earlier, this is a process of Love. So, to become better at being Loving, Caring and the Like, one should become more Understanding and Accepting. You work on ''getting'' the person you are relating to. You ''hear'' them when they communicate. You ''know'' where they are coming from. You don't try to change them. You Accept them as they are. You are Loving them as they are, and it is more of the Unconditional variety.

---APPRECIATION Improves ALL That We Touch-----

---Sometimes, we try to change someone to fit our ''idea'' of what we ''think'' they should be. This really is only a projection of our own ''MIND,'' super-imposed on someone. [the operative word being- imposed.] We may mean well, but it is really conveying to that person that he is unacceptable in his present form. You are really putting on a pressure and laying your own ''trip'' upon him. It really is ''your'' problem and not his. When we Appreciate someone, we don't appreciate what we think he should become, we Appreciate who he is.
---When we stay in the moment with the person, we are acknowledging that he also has the ability within himself to see what it truly is you see within him. He can then choose to apply it or ignore it. In any case, he is improved. I only say this because if something true for him is seen, then it WILL take hold and
germinate. Denying it won't make a whole lot of sense. Understanding and Acceptance will increase for ALL concerned, eventually. Then we have an eventual increase in Appreciation. Then, of course, in the over-all Relationship. When given the proper nutrients, ALL seeds of truth come to pass. Be Well.

''A'' or ''The''

2006-02-08T16:45:00.000-08:00

''A'' or ''THE''

2006-02-08T16:43:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...

Being ''A'' Player in the Game,
Not ''THE'' Player in the Game

---There is a big difference in ones enjoyment of Life that depends on how one sees himself. This difference is denoted by A or THE. If one sees himself as THE player in the game, one is probably very subjective. He is probably very self-concerned and constantly sees Life as a me vs. them situation. He tends to think that everyone is out to get him in some way, and that it is important to beat others ''to the punch.''
---When one sees himself as A player [in the game of Life], he is probably more objective. He is broader in his thinking and allows others to be who they are. He doesn't seem to be as ready to ''rain on someones parade.'' He is a team player where ''what is good for ALL includes him, also, but his MAIN concern is the good of the team.''

---Here Is A Real Distinction---

---Here, I feel, the real distinction has to be made. Everyone has his own Heart to follow and it is very important to be true to yourself. It is important to know what you, yourself, are doing and which game you are playing. I can almost guarantee there are times you feel like the ''leader'' and sometimes the ''follower.'' This is very natural, because sometimes you ARE. This is how we ''live and learn.'' It becomes very important to know, ''when to Hold 'em and when to Fold 'em.'' You begin to Know Yourself and Wisdom starts to take shape. You will know what is True and what is False and make better choices because of it.
---We ALL have what we need inside of Ourselves, and through our interactions with one another, we get to Know what it is. Be ''flexible'' and be aware of the things and situations that brings out the best in you. Know what you really care about and where your ''Love Lies.'' Know the difference between fleeting happiness and that which lasts. Be Well.

We All Respond to Something

2006-02-08T16:36:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...
''We All Have SAME Emotions,
Over DIFFERENT Things'''

---We all respond to something. There is something that exists ''that we really like to do.'' Something that ''speaks'' to us as nothing else does. Something that goes on that has us ''going on,'' too.
---We are all so different in our ''likes'' and ''preferences,'' that finding our own may take sometime, unless we have been honest with ourselves all along the way. When I speak of honesty, I am speaking of being truthful to yourself. Then it is easy to know what one likes or ones own mind as we are on ''track.''
---When we are in relationship to this ''thing,'' we feel good. As Shakespeare once said, ''There is nothing good or bad within itself, it is our thinking that makes it so.'' We have to use intelligence here. We don't want to make everyone our victim. Before we embark on anything like this, we have to ''understand'' Love and Caringness. Then we naturally are sure everyone and everything is alright.
---Some of us sing, dance, play music, listen to music, have ''different'' favorites as we watch TV, watch Sports, play Sports, exercise, go for walks, read, play on their computers, eat, drink, sleep, knit, crochet, smoke, etc. Some of us have Significant Other people to fill this bill. We ALL seem to have the ''same'' emotions over ''different'' things.
---That which we resonate to calls us to the highest and truest of ourselves. We are in a Love Relationship. We treat this ''relationship'' as almost Sacred as to us it very much is. A feeling of joy overtakes this ''relationship,'' and it's pursuit becomes a natural unfolding of the Self.
---Blame doesn't work. It is really nobody elses fault for us being in the situation we are in. The old joke is that as we are telling the therapist it is all our ''friend's'' fault, our ''friend'' is busy telling his therapist it is our fault. This is about as far as blame gets us. Maybe it is time to move on. It really doesn't matter whose fault it is, this, whatever it is, is the situation. Learn from it, and move on. Unravelling who we are is much more fun and rewarding, than always being concerned with how right we are.
---As we communicate and relate we discover Ourself and our relationship to the Divine. It becomes an Infinite Process as we grow with ''It.'' This is our Path. We slough off that which we no longer need and ''move'' as our ''new'' self. Remember, it is no ones ''job'' to Love us, but it is ''our'' job to Love them. To have a friend, be a friend.
---The next time you feel tempted to shift the blame his way give this a little more thought. See your own responsibility, and go further. Contrary to popular belief, ''nothing happens in the Past.'' The Situation is ''what it is.'' Move from there. Everyone and everything has value. Maybe we should examine things a little more kindly and closely. We can be taught from many angles when we are open. Be Well.

''I Don't Know What, But The DOG (Above) Is Responding To Something.''

We All LOVE One Another...

2006-02-06T20:17:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...

''We All LOVE One Another,
We're Just Working Out The Details.''

---I really believe that this is true. In fact, I know this is true. The logic is simple, God is Love. It all comes down to this, Love. In all Bibles and in all Beings it comes to finding the God, the Christ, the Buddha, Krishna Consciousness, the Kingdom, your True Self, your potential, etc. The Love is within, your objective-self.
---For many of us, the problem is that we have to let this come out. In a listening mode, we can hear how this is happening. The problem is that people listen to their own egos which only knows how to compete and compare with everyone else instead of Loving and caring for everyone else. It is more a Me vs. Them space and not a caring space.
---This is why when we go against the grain, we have trouble. We are slated to Love one another, so when we do not, we have pangs of conscience, illnesses etc. We are not being punished so to speak, but it is ourselves that cause our own pain. Love is doing Fine. It can't ''Punish'' us. It Loves us.
---When we mess-up, ''What goes around, does comes around,'' Then it is true. What is true for one is true for all, there are no favorites. There are only people who are more aware of how it works. Some know this to be true, some don't. We ALL have this Ability.
---I admit, this is what I'm learning-not ''how to,'' but ''that.'' It seems that Being Loving is the way to Be. Since we are the same, differently, it is a different
communication for each. We all resonate to different things. I find myself doing battle, at times, with things and situations that ''upset the applecart.'' I'm learning that I spent time on ''looking'' for a ''blanket'' way to be, but it became important to ''downsize'' my situation and Love as Myself, and take my own advice. Doing what I Love to do seems very important as It is Love that it ALL comes down to. Be Well.

My Nurse's JOKE

2006-02-05T22:21:00.000-08:00

My Nurse's JOKE

---There are four males on an airplane that is going to crash. There is a Heart Surgeon, a Priest, a Rocket-Scientist and a Teen. The four only have three parachutes, between them.
---The Heart Surgeon—‘’I think I should jump with a parachute, as I may save many more lives, if I do.’’ He jumped, first.
---The Rocket Scientist—‘’I think I should have a parachute, as I am very intelligent, and, probably, do a lot more than you people.’’ He jumped next.
---The Priest looked at the boy and said, ‘’You jump next, son. We only have one…’’
---The boy stopped him and said. ‘‘I don’t think we have anything to worry about, Father. The Rocket-Scientist just took my knapsack.''

WAR - What Is It ''GOOD'' For??

2006-01-29T19:56:00.000-08:00

CONSIDER THIS...
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!

---Do you remember this old song? War, what is it good for? Absolutely Nothing. Let's take a look at this. This how I see it-War is the Inner Conflict of ALL men, Expressed Outwardly. We all have this inner conflict until we make Peace with Life, with ourselves. We see things in a certain duality. We have an inner and outer self. We have things that we actually do and things we think we should do or should have done. Very few of us live in the moment, when we are there.
---We see people and situations from a Me vs. Them mode instead of a compassionate, kind and Loving space. We Blame others for our circumstances instead of taking Personal Responsibility for where we are at. Or we think of ourselves and others so Negatively that we see ourselves and/or others as
worthless and expendable.
---We see things and their opposites-Pleasure and Pain, Faith and Fear, Good and Bad, Life and Death, Love and Hate, etc. We compete and compare ourselves with others to see if we are Good, Bad, Better or Best. We are Judge and Jury for ourselves and others, so we ''look good.'' We have to make peace with this inner conflict. It is said that we find Love in the 'spaces between' thought.
We know Love when the Mind is quiet. I speak of real Love and fullfilment, peace and joy, a creative approach to Living.
---It is very important that we Accept Life as it Is, and not BEND it according to our own Desires and Prejudices. Like begets like [that is why we look like our parents.] If we hurt or take advantage of another, it finds its way back to us. When we seek revenge and to get even, it finds its way back. What goes around does come around, even if you don't think it does. We ALL have our ''Day of Reckoning.'' This is a law and the way it is set up. ''Judge and Ye Shall Be Judged.'' By the same token, when it is Love, kindness, joy, peace, compassion, etc., we work with, it also finds its way back. This makes Living an enjoyable event.
---When we LOVE, we accept Others. We enjoy Others. We don't want to hurt anyone. We don't mock anyone. We delight in the joy and happiness of Others. We don't compete and compare ourselves to others in order to make ourselves look better at their expense. We see that we are ALL in this together and to choose sides creates separateness, alienation, and division. There is nobody better than you, there is nobody worse than you. We all have the same emotions, just over different things. We all have things and situations we resonate to. Our Minds can make it seem complicated or joyful. Love is definitely what It is all about. Keep it SIMPLE. Be Well.

HOW TO STUDY

2006-01-28T20:33:00.000-08:00

---http://www.how-to-study.com/

BLOG Contents:

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BLOG: CONTENTS:

POSITIVE STUFF-
1. LOVE ''Shines'' - Like the Sun
2. LIVING: ''Just a Transformation''
3. We're ALL Evolving Into LOVE,
Just Ask My CAT
4. The ''PROVERB''
5. Exercise for the MIND
6. AFFIRMATION
7. BEGINNERS MINDSET
8. DEAR WORLD,
9. RELATIONSHIPS - ''Do Unto Others'' - revisited
10. QUOTES - Names You May ''RECOGNIZE''

CONSIDER THIS...
1. WAR: What Is It Good For?
2. Appreciation: The Therapeutic Process
3. To Be Where You're At When You're There
4. Appreciation: The Glue of Relationship
5. ''A'' or ''The''
6. We All Respond To Something
7. We All LOVE One Another...
8. The ''Go To'' Person
9. To IMPROVE Relations

METAPHYSICS
1. Why Is There Suffering?
2. ''ADDICTION'' - The PIAS
3. HEALTHY - ''Big Picture''
4. FINDING : ''YOUR OWN VOICE''
5. Getting RID Of Our STUFF
6. BEST MEDICINE
7. MARRIAGE
8. CELIBACY - Why?
9. Self - Acceptance
10. Cross, Death and Ressurection
11. SECOND COMING

The ''REAL'' F - word FRUSTRATION
1. HONEST COMMUNICATION
''DELETES'' FRUSTRATION
2. LEVELS of COMMUNICATION - a poem
3. A FRUSTRATING CONTRADICTION
4. The FRUSTRATION QUIZ
5. If I Were Painting a Picture About The
LEVELS of FRUSTRATION
6. FRUSTRATION
7. Sherlock Holmes - joke
8. FRUSTRATION The ''REAL'' F - word
9. The FRUSTRATION ''FACTOR''
10. Why Are We So Frustrated?

BEING OBJECTIVE - good
1. The ''OBJECTIVE'' MIND
2. DEFINITIONs: From ''SUBJECTIVE''
to ''OBJECTIVE''
3. OBJECTIVE
4. The ''OBJECTIVE'' LANGUAGE
5. The Subjective - SELF
6. LIFE: a BATTLEFIELD or a PLAYGROUND?
7. Unmasking The ''OBJECTIVE - SELF''
8. Managing PAIN
9. ''BEYOND'' Pain
10. BOREDOM - A Recipe ''AGAINST''
11. THINKING BACK - The ''ROOT CANALS''

BIBLIOGRAPHY, etc.
1. The BOBBY DARLING Show
2. BOOKS I Have Read, etc.
3. BOBBYDARLING.COM
4. Websites - Intuition Network
5. Website - Old Time Radio
6. Website Favorite

BLOGGERYTHYMS
1. NAKEDness - A New Wrinkle
2. The ''INNER'' and ''OUTER''
3. OVERCOME FEAR with INTELLIGENCE
4. ''BEST'' Medicine - TRUTH
5. POLLY Goes To Psychiatrist --
Thinks ''CRACKERS''
6. Unlearning - [the old self - image, again]
7. The MIND As Empty As a ''MANGER''
8. ''BLAME'' does NOT Work
9. Self - ''Expression''
10. FIND YOUR ''OWN'' PACE

''BLOG, --- JAMES BLOG.''
1. Left-Hand Story - ''CONGENITAL''
2. Self - ''Discovery''
3. LOVE - Two Kinds
4. Left - Hand --''Situation''
5. Hole-In-One
6. BEYOND ''Anger'' and ''Depression'' -
A Possibility
7. PSYCHOLOGY - ''Adequacy Concerns''
8. ''TIME'' and ''ASSUME''
9. AXIS - EGO
10. It Is ALL ''INSIDE'' - a poem

POEMS, QUOTES and STUFF!
1. HOW to KNOW SOMEONE!! - a poem
2. ADDICTION - a poem
3. ADULT BOOKS - a poem
4. ACCEPTANCEVILLE, USA - a poem
5. PERSPECTIVES - a poem
6. CLICHES R US - a poem
7. QUOTES - PAH
8. LAW: Letter or Spirit - a poem
9. BOREDOM: Against - a poem
10. WHEELCHAIRS - ''The TRILOGY'' - poems
11. April Fools Day, Anyway!!
12. A Musing - a poem
13. SALUTATIONS from the... HELP!!
14. The THUNDER of SILENCE - a poem
15. FIND YOUR OWN VOICE - a poem
16. ODE TO ''RESPECT'' - a poem
17. GOOD THOUGHT - ''RELATIONSHIP''
18. QUOTES - 4 more
19. SOUNDS LIKE A PLAN - a poem
20. Hospital Time - a poem
21. A ''Good Laugh'' - a poem
22. Where's The HOLY? - a poem

Meaning of Life -
1. Meaning of Life - To LOVE
Appreciation - a poem
2. The ''EXPERIENCE'' Itself
3. The - ''ICEBERGs''
4. ''JUDGMENT''
5. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
6. Honest COMMUNICATION - a poem
7. The HOUSE with FAULTY WIRING